Missing out
There is this song called You don't wanna miss by a group from the early 90's called Four Real. They were super dope, y'all should check them out. But the basic premise for the song was them telling the men in their lives that they are going to miss out on a good thing if they didn't take advantage of them now. I can't say that I agree with this message. I mean it is true that we miss out on things when we don't take advantage, but why do I have to beg you to acknowledge all that I am as a woman? We hear it over and over again, with women begging men to pay attention to them, or take notice of who they are or appreciate all that they do, but honestly, is all of that necessary? It is very true, that if a man wants you, he will make that very clear. I recently found myself begging for attention. Sending out ultimatums for time, when my girl had to bust me out and ask me why I was even wasting my time? We should never have to beg someone to be a part of our lives. We should definitely put effort into relationships, I am a big fan of the fifty fifty in Relationships, but am I really supposed to beg for your time? I mean really, If you can't see what's in front of you, then who am I to try am twist your arm to see that I'm a good woman? It’s just not that serious! So, for the record, If I am spending time with you and making an effort, and that effort is not be reciprocated, then I am not going to go through hoops to try and keep your attention. There has to be an equal level of give and take, but brothas and sisters, there has to be a certain level of respect that needs to be had in yourself in order to be able to get to this point. We should never have to beg anyone to see the goodness in us. If he doesn't return your calls, or show you the amount of respect or loyalty you desire, then he's not the one. And No, we don't want to miss out on a good thing, but is our dignity and self respect worth it?
